v. 10 "Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies."Rubies today are still valuable, but back then they would have been worth even more! I love that God uses figurative language so many times to get get his point across to us. This would be an example of using an exaggeration. Meaning God holds a virtuous woman so valuable that you would not be able to even put a price on her! That is overwhelming for me to think about. We live in a world today that puts a price on everything, and just knowing that I could be held on the pedestal of PRICELESS makes me want it even more!
In thinking about this verse I also got to thinking about the fact that God is asking a question here "Who can find a virtuous woman?" I think it is being asked this way as a challenge to men. All men are interested in valuable things, so why not challenge them to find a "valuable" wife? I think most of the time we focus our attention in the chapter on the many things we should be doing as wives (which we should), but why not look at if from the stand point of the men. I believe we should be teaching this scripture and its value to our young men!! Give them God's checklist for a wife. Issue the challenge to them to seek out the very best, a GODLY WOMAN!
v.11 "The heart of her husband doth
safely trust in her; so he shall have no need of spoil"
I believe the heart here is his absolute soul and entire being! He is able to give her everything of himself because he has utmost confidence in who she is and how she treats him. Take a moment to reflect on a man who's wife is not trustworthy, not only a woman that can not be trusted with the everyday affairs of life but a woman that is demeaning and untrustworthy with a man's feelings. Will a woman like that help her husband be successful and happy in life? Of course not, she will do nothing but hold him back and keep him from any form of success or happiness. Now, think about this same woman and the effect she would have on her husband's spiritual life. We all know that an unhappy man (or woman) is much more likely to give into his temptations whether it be adultery, alcohol, pornography, etc...
I truly believe our homes should be the utmost refuge for our families and ESPECIALLY our husbands! The number one quality that will make our homes a refuge and give our husbands that feeling of safety is TRUST!!
v. 12 "She will do him good and not evil all the days of her
By God instructing us specifically to do our husbands good and NOT evil means it is possible for us to do evil unto our husbands. A lot of times, for me at least, I do not want to admit when I am wrong or when I've done something wrong, BUT it is possible for me to be wrong and I need to be ever aware of that!
We may not be aware at times of those little things that cause him "evil". I think we could make a list of big things we consider evil but what about those little things that affect them on a daily basis? As wives, we need it pay attention and listen to our husbands for clues. We might even need to ask our husbands to tell us of those things we do that cause them difficulty.
I absolutely LOVE the phrase " all the days of her life." Now that is COMMITMENT! This statement alone holds within it God's will for us to be married to our spouses all the days of our lives! Please understand that I know the "exceptions" God has given us for divorce, however God still hates divorce. It was never his intention for men and women to be married as long as they both behave but the design of marriage is for life.
Sorry this post is so long! I had to catch up with three verses instead of one! Next weeks will be shorter promise :) Now go on and DISCUSS!!!